We develop conclusions and a belief about the world and the people in it, very early in life.
By the age of 8, we have formed ideas and beliefs about what we believe, what we’ve been told, what’s been shown to us and how we think we need to be, in order to thrive or survive.
As children, we absorbed and accepted what was happening around us, what was being said around, or to us, and what was modeled for us. We then make assumptions based on our experiences. We conclude that, “this happened, therefore, this must be true.” This creates our beliefs.
Whether it is true or not, it is true for us. The only thing that mattered to us and our subconscious mind is that we survive, that we are safe.
Although these beliefs may have served their purpose and have kept us safe, they are also the things that are holding us back now. Now, we’re afraid to do that thing, afraid to take that risk, unsure of our capabilities, and stuck in a rut.
You may have anxiety, PTSD, or feel depressed. You may feel limited on what you can do with your life.
You may never be able to get ahead, because you learned that there was never enough, there is lack in this world.
You may be overweight and can’t lose it no matter how hard you try, so you give up. Just because you always had to finish your plate, or “there are starving children everywhere.” Sometimes weight is a protection against abuse, not wanting/or feeling good enough to be ‘seen.’ The list could go on and on.
There are several different ways our beliefs can show up to sabotage our life, most of the time without us even knowing about it. We just accept it. “That’s just the way it is, that’s just the way I am. “
I’m here to tell you, that isn’t the way it has to be. We can release the beliefs you’ve formed, or were formed for you, consciously or unconsciously. Once we release them, it feels like you are able to see things better than you ever could. You see things differently, you open up to doing things differently, and a whole new world opens up to you. How great is that?
Our subconscious mind is pretty impressive…
If you think about it, not only does it automatically digest our food, make us breathe, beat our heart, it records every aspect of our life! Our beautiful subconscious mind is filtering and storing data, making sure we are safe, and everything runs smoothly.
However, it does have a few flaws; it only thinks literally, it lives off habit and repetition, and it cannot differentiate between real and imaginary.
Its purpose is for our survival. It’s constantly looking for threats or triggers. At any time of our life, that may have felt overwhelming, traumatic, scary, or just had a high intensity emotion around it, it recorded every moment and association to it, to be able to protect you and avoid further distress in the future. Even if it is faulty or distorted information.
Whatever we plant in our Subconscious Mind and nourish with repetition and emotion, will one day become our reality. ~~Earl Nightingale
Our subconscious mind is a mind map, a processing database. It connects so many things to one moment. It records what you were smelling, eating, seeing, who you were with, where you were, and what you were feeling, etc. etc.
Even the act of remembering an event, triggers the same neuropathways as when the event actually happened. The subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference! It’s like we relive these moments over and over again at the same velocity. The warning light goes on... Alert! Danger!! You’re not safe!!! We’ve been here before, we need to survive, Abort!! It’s telling us to learn from the past and not repeat any part of that experience.
In some ways that is good. Especially if you need to run away from a real threat, or not repeat a pattern that is harmful to you. Most of the time it is not good, because you stay small and afraid. You limit yourself, stay too safe, and don’t experience your full potential. Maybe you’re always stressed. Maybe you have symptoms in your body that don’t make sense. You might even react to a smell or food in a negative way and don’t know why.
A Few Examples…
Let’s say when you were 3 years old, you were playing outside with a red ball, and a big gust of wind came up. Your ball blew away, and the swing set started clanking. The metal chains hitting against the metal bars made this horrible eerie sound, you got dust in your eyes, and you were scared and sad.
From that one event, now at age 30, you get triggered by a red ball, maybe you get agitated when it’s windy. Maybe the sound of bells or certain creaks or metal clanking together, like windchimes, are like fingernails on a chalkboard to you. Maybe you have allergies now, especially to dust. Maybe you are always anxious and don’t understand why. Your subconscious mind collected all of those things as a threat, or an experience that you need to avoid.
So your assumptions and triggers (from and about that event) going forward, might be: A red ball. Dust. Wind. Sounds.>>afraid>>fear>>unsafe>>anxiety>>allergies>>hyper-sensitive>>sounds
Or…maybe when you were 10, you were eating dinner, your parents were fighting about money and bills and putting food on the table. You’re uncomfortable, don’t want to eat, and just want to get away from the table. Your dad tells you to finish your dinner, “don’t you know how many children are starving?” Or “do you know hard I have to work to give you that food?” So now there is shame and guilt and blame….
Your triggers could now be>> arguments>>being non-confrontational>>afraid to speak your mind>>Food>>overeating>>weight gain>>money>>lack>>there is never enough.
There’s a whole slew of assumptions you can create off that one event.
So now let’s say you are 16. You have to give a speech in class. You get up there and you freeze. When you do start talking, your words come out wrong and everyone laughs at you. Maybe someone even called you stupid. You’re mortified. Maybe your teacher tells you to come more prepared next time. It’s heartbreaking because you spent so much time preparing and working on this project.
So assumptions and triggers might be: Fear of public speaking>>stage fright>>avoiding job/careers that you want>>feeling not good enough>>I’m dumb>>no matter how hard I try, it doesn’t matter or won’t make a difference>>why try?>>fear of judgements>>insecure.
So you can see how certain experiences, opinions of others, judgements, and assumptions can change the way we see the world, experience the world, and the direction we take. These are just a few examples. There are so many things we experience throughout our lives.
Some things may be Big Traumas, but so many times, we experience small events, moments even, that don’t seem like that big a deal. Our parents, family, teachers, or friends say or do something, most likely unintentional, but it affects us, more than we realize. It can certainly affect the way we see ourselves and our abilities.
Just Imagine…
The great news is, we CAN change our beliefs. We CAN identify the layers of our belief systems and release them. I can help you do that. You don’t need to know what your beliefs are, leave that to me.
You probably know of a few areas where you’re stuck, can’t get past (over) something or forgive something or someone, or you can’t seem to reach a goal. These are just a few ways that tell us we have some limiting, outdated beliefs that are no longer serving us. That’s where we start.
Just imagine with me for a moment what it would feel like to live a life where you are limitless, free, unhindered, unburdened and allowed to live the life you were meant to live!!! Dare to dream. Dare to accept. Allow, and give yourself that freedom. You deserve it!! Even if a part of you doesn’t think you do, you do, and I can help you realize that.
