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Do You Believe in Karma?

karma, how you react is yours

Ahhh.. Karma..

What goes around, comes around…

You never win playing dirty..

And of course, the famous declaration of Karma is a bitch…right?

I have a love/hate relationship with the use of the word karma.

I find it hilarious actually, that the ones that hide behind the stance of karma is a bitch, are usually the ones that have the most vicious kind coming to them.

They believe by saying it, loudly, at someone’s behavior, it’ll somehow bypass them, by pointing the blame at someone else.
“She did it!!!”
Like a 3 year old kid, directing karma where to go. Ha Ha.
I’m not sure that’s how it works…
However, that being said, I do believe karma is real.
Good things do happen to good people, not to those that just pretend to be.

Sometimes, those most deserving of a good dose of karmic punishment, don’t ever seem to get it. At least in our eyes. But that’s not our call. It’s not up to us. We can’t be sitting around and waiting, trying to tip the scale of karmic justice.
So instead, I choose to believe in kindness.

I believe in love.

I believe in trying to do your best and be your best every day.

I believe in inspiration and uplifting others.

I believe in allowing people to be who they are.

And the beautiful thing is, I believe we always have a choice on who gets to be in our lives, and who doesn’t. Therefore, removing the need to be the karma police.
So, whether you believe in karma or not…Or feel you have been designated as the authority on who goes to karma purgatory…Or you feel like karma has something against you..
It’s never too late to be kind, to yourself and others. To see the humanness in everyone. To start attracting the things you want in your life .And just trying to BE better, every day and in every way.
In love and light

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Time Decides Who You Meet in Your Life

time decides, heart, behavior, meet, want, stay in your life

Time decides who you meet in your life,

Your heart decides who you want in your life,

Your behavior decides who stays in your life.

~Ziad K. Abdelnour

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Time..

There are certain people you meet at certain times or stages in your life. People you need in that moment. People that support you. People that test you, and people that teach you.

The saying that you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince, is also true.

You learn along the way what you do and do not want. You learn what’s important to you. You become clear on what you will and will not tolerate. That goes for all relationships, romantic, friendships, and acquaintances. Even how you are treated by the person at the grocery store!

So yes, it takes time to experience all the lessons and learn from each person you meet. When you get to the point of knowing who you are and are clear of what you want, time allows your heart to open for the most profound relationships to enter.

the heart decides who you want in your life

The Heart…

The heart has it’s own process. Throughout life, your heart takes a beating. First loves, heartbreaks, rejections, beginnings and endings, devastations and loss, profound love and joy, to name a few.

We experience a roller coaster of emotions. It’s no wonder we build walls around our hearts. For protection, for our survival, to keep us safe. We start becoming very guarded and picky about who we allow into our hearts and our lives. The more we learn to trust ourselves, the more we allow our hearts to open to the people that can hold it safely. Your heart always knows what it wants. The challenge is in learning to trust it.

your behavior decides who stays in your life

Behavior…

After time, and learning to open and trust your heart, you have brought these people to you, that you want or need on some level. This is where you truly appreciate those that enrich your life. Acknowledging and recognizing where you can take responsibility for yourself, your “stuff,” and not project it onto them.

Wounds are going to come up. Relationships are a surefire way to present triggers, and for past “crap” to reappear. It’s what we do with that, determines how well our relationships can thrive. You have to meet each other where you are. Allow, grow, and accept each other just as you are. Learning to know, and be honest with yourself, and them, about who that is.

Slapping others with your expectations and demands, is not healthy. Not seeing them as your equal, is not healthy. Having to walk on eggshells because you don’t know what’s going to set them off, is not healthy. Not appreciating each other, is not healthy.

Relationships are about love, honesty, and respect. Allowing the other to be free to be themselves. Truly appreciating them for who they are, how they are, and the many blessings they bring into your life.

In love and light!

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Committed to Crazy

specific kind of crazy, committed

Oh my God! Isn’t that the truth?

When I first saw this quote, I just had to laugh….Hard!
We all know that someone or maybe several someones that just make you shake your head and say…Really??! But they’re really committed to it, so it’s like, Wow! At least they’re really good at something!
To understand someone’s mind is not something easily done. So you might as well just stop trying.
Let’s face it, there are some delusional, hateful, hurtful and narcissistic people out there. People who lie to get what they want. Even worse, the ones that believe their own lies and manipulate others to better themselves.
It’s hard to be the bigger person when you have people like that around you. I know, because I had to deal with some very judgmental, very delusional, and hateful people strongly in my face the last couple years. I saw first hand how ugly people can be.

I experienced the whole handbag of vicious behavior, from stalking, to defamation of character, invasion of privacy, threats, lies, deceit, manipulation, egotistical control.. just to name a few… Lol. That handbag apparently had no bottom to it!
The list could go on and on, but it was a series of non stop, repugnant behavior, yes, repugnant. That’s a strong word. An awful, but beautiful word that encapsulates the picture I’m trying to paint.
Even after all of that, I think the hardest part was watching the tsunami of pain and anger affect the innocent ones, the distasteful way they hurt family and friends. I can take a bit of crazy, but that’s a low blow. It truly broke my heart. Taking friends, family, and everyone down around them with their pain.
Which is what all of that is about anyway. They are acting from their own pain, their own insecurities. It’s not about me. They may not be able to see their own stuff, or know how to take responsibility for it. That’s all they know. I do believe everyone does the best they can with what they know.
So, moral of the story, you may not like or understand the specific kind of crazy in your life or out in the world, but that is not your business, that is not your problem. It starts with you. Be what you want to see in the world. Be someone you can be proud of. Admire their commitment to their crazy and use it for inspiration to combat it with equal velocity of love, kindness and beauty.

In love and light!

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We accept the Love We Think We Deserve

We accept the love we think we deserve
We are so unaware of the thoughts we think,
Or the beliefs we hold.
 
Surely we all think we deserve great things,
and we want great things.
 
And we do,
but sometimes there is a hidden belief deep inside,
that will only allow so much greatness for us.
 
We all have our comfort zones.
The place that feels natural and normal to us.
 
But the sad thing is,
is that comfort zone doesn’t always mean it feels good.
 
It’s just what we’re used to,
what we’ve accepted,
what we know how to maneuver through and around.
 
Therefore, we lower our expectations.
We settle for less,
and we convince ourselves we are happy.
 
Until we decide to be aware of who we are,
and to know our worth,
then mediocracy may be all that we can accept.
 
There is nothing wrong with that.
 
But if we want to raise that bar at all,
if we want to fulfill our dreams, desires or goals,
we must learn to check in with ourselves and see.
 
See if we can truly accept, completely allow and know in our hearts,
that we deserve every single great thing that comes our way.
 
And if it isn’t great, it isn’t ours.
My hopes are, that we can all learn to reach a little higher.
 
In love and light!
 
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Love Didn’t Hurt You

Love Didin't Hurt You
Love is not the reason we hurt.
It is not loves fault.
 
We hurt because we find ourselves in entanglements with others
who don’t know how to love,
or don’t know what to do with it.
 
Not everyone is meant to love you in the same way, at the same degree or as fiercely as you love them.
 
Not everyone will love you back.
 
It has nothing to do with how much love you have,
But how well you give it, and how you express it.
 
Be willing to give and receive love.
Be willing to let love go.
Not all love is yours.
Love should feel free.
 
Love is not something to be feared.
Love fully.
Love freely.
Love unconditionally.
Love with everything you have and you will always have enough.
 
In LOVE and light
 
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Set Yourself Free

Life is Short, set yourself free

I have been running away from and towards things at the same velocity my whole life!  With one foot on the gas and one on the brake.  Running at full speed with a chain around my waist that’s bolted to a slab of concrete.

fly and be free

I have wants.  I have desires.  I have a longing for more.  Every ounce of my being is aching for passion, to give in to reckless abandon.  Cut the chains and limitations that hold me back.  Forego all rules and responsibility.

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Daddy Issues

Daddy's Girl

A father is supposed to be a man you can look up to, someone you admire.  For a girl, your daddy is someone that treats you like a princess, someone who loves you and comforts you.  A girls’ dad is the foundation of what the man of your dreams should look like, act like, and how they should treat you.

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What is Going On in the Dating World?!

the heart decides who you want

Being a hopeless romantic in a hookup culture is a special kind of hell

I am not a dater.  I never have been, and probably never will be.  I’ve always been the relationship girl.  That’s what we used to do.  If you like someone, then you’re together.  End of story…  Not anymore.

I am at that weird stage of being too old to understand the hook up scenario, too young to be exposed to the chivalry era and smack dab in the middle of what the hell is going on?!

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